"Lawyer, igama lam ngu Natasha kwaye ingaba zahlukane yi-kwiinyanga ezimbini ezidlulileyoKulo nyaka kunye Christmas iza ingxaki ka-ukulawula hlala ngexesha vacation wam unyana, Michael, zisixhenxe-yeminyaka ubudala abo ubomi kunye nam. Ndingathanda ukuthetha ukuba umgwebi kutheni mna insist ukuba unyana wam ihlala kunye nam ukususela ekuqalekeni ekupheleni yakhe vacation kwaye yiya ubawo kuba ubukhulu ka-ngeveki end. Indlela endinokuyenza kuyo."Nangona kukho iindlela kubonisiwe kwi-isigqibo inkundla kubalulekile obvious ukuba kukho phakama entsha ifuna kwaye engalindelekanga iziganeko ukuze ufumanise ukukuthakazelela a umzali ukuba sue enye kuba breach ka-nezibonelelo kwi custody. Enyanisweni, kukho akukho isemthethweni imigangatho elawula i-foster care abantwana kuba amathuba festivity kwaye iholide, isizathu lies kwi-eyokuba, njengokuba nayo yonke imicimbi involving minors, kuphela umthetho umele ukunika ukubaluleka yabo nentlalo-ntle. Nangona kunjalo, ukuziqhelanisa yamkelwa libhunga iinkundla amise ukuba christmas iiholide ingaba umahlule kwi isiseko a umgaqo-nkqubo alternation. Kwi-ethile - kwaye, ngaphandle kokuba kungenjalo kuvunyelwene ngazo phakathi kwamaqela, - amanyathelo anike ukuba abantwana baya ukuchitha - christmas iiholide kwaye ileta kunye mom nesiqingatha kunye dad, ngoko ke ukuba rhoqo emva kweminyaka emibini, bamele nge xesha ukuba uyaya ukusuka i-closure ezikolweni phezulu amathathu kweyomnga, kunye nezinye izinto eziseleyo xesha ukuya kwi-i-umdlalo we aviname. Kumele ibe zacaciswa ukuba inkundla ruling ayikho ezibophelelayo abazali ukuba awuhlonele nzima ayo, imixholo, kodwa ngenye a kuyimfuneko kubhekiswa ityala apho phakathi yangaphambili kukho incoko yababini, isakhono okanye nkqu ukukuthakazelela ukuba adapt entsha iimeko. Ngamanye amazwi, abazali bamele free ukuba uyavuma kwi ezahlukeneyo iindlela i-iintlanganiso ngexesha iiholide kuthelekiswa abo yamkelwa (okanye ikuvumile) nge-inkundla, modellandole ukuba iimfuno zabantu ukuba mzuzu, usapho unako langoku. Omnye kunokwenzeka isisombululo ngu enxulumene indlela yokwenza yi apho isine kwaye yamashumi amabini kadisemba ngu wachitha kunye ngumzali, ngexesha elandelayo amabini anesihlanu kunye omnye umzali, kwaye ngoko ke kanjalo kuba mini amashumi omnye disemba kwaye omnye januwari, upelo ezinye iintsuku kwi rhoqo indlela. Olu hlobo subdivision ye-iiholide kuhle suited abo kuba akukho iingxaki wawo movements, kwaye prefers ethile"ukungaguquguquki kwesiqulathi"ubudlelwane kunye nabantwana, avoiding elide amathuba ixesha apho ngumzali izakuba ngaphandle kwabantwana, ingakumbi ukuba bayagwetywa ezincinane abantwana. Kwaye awunakuba kuba ayifakwanga malunga nenkqubo yolawulo olumanyanisiweyo imfuza ka-bechitha yinxalenye iiholide kunye bobabini abazali ngexesha elinye, ukuze kukunika uxolo lwengqondo ukuba abantwana, ethabatha care, nangona kunjalo, ngaphezu kwazo zonke, hayi induce abantwana ukuba ithemba kwi kubuyela ubudala imeko phambi-okunokukhethwa kuko, ukusukela ukuba izakuba kakhulu ezinobungozi ukuba victims of a elizayo disappointment. Kwaye kuba abo babe woyikayo ka-izikhalazo, sibe suffice ukuba nkqu elula exchange i-imeyili apha phakathi abazali, ukuze formalize omtsha kwesi sivumelwano ngaphandle ekubeni ukuya umgwebi, okanye umngcipheko ukuba eks ayikwazi argue ukuba nawe zange wavuma ukuba udweliso lwenkqubo ezahlukileyo ukususela oko kuchaziwe isihlalo. Kwesinye isandla, kubalulekile unthinkable isicelo enkundleni nanini na xa kukho phakama entsha imibuzo, kwaye absolutely amatyala anokwenzeka uqikelelo lwamatyala anokwenzeka kwaye unpredictable ngexesha i ubizo: wenkundla. Nangona kunjalo, funda ukuthatha kwi-akhawunti xa sukuba kwenzeka ufumana i-intetho ka-nako kunye abazali ukuhlangabezana neemfuno abantwana, apho kaninzi, inkundla iimeko awunayo ilizwi. Elokuphetha, umthetho umthetho ayikho ngenxa yokuba umgaqo ukuba governs lo mhlaba umthetho ingaba ukubaluleka le kakuhle-ntle abantwana Izakuba ukwenzeka ukuba dictate umqathango a priori, ngenxa yokuba iimfuno usapho ingaba iintsapho ezininzi, kunye nemigangatho kufuneka anike-siseko na imithetho. Umthetho kukuba kukho akukho migaqo, ngaphandle kokuba okkt ukuba yosapho entsha iya kuba ukunceda abantwana ukuba ndikwazi ukuphefumla kakuhle kwi serene atmosphere. Yonke lento ukuba lunike kubo, nto leyo iza ngokuqinisekileyo ibango ukuba unyana wabo bahamba bonke phezu christmas ixesha kunye naye ngu nomthi umthetho okanye eyona isisombululo. Abazali nabo bahlala moments ka-ingxabano enyakeni (ngenxa dad bezisa abantwana ukuya ekhaya ye-maternal kunye zekota yure nenkululeko libazisa kuthelekiswa ixesha umda, okanye ngenxa yokuba umama sele akuvumelekanga i imali a uphose encounter) kufuneka, ubuncinane, khumbula ukuba Christmas kusenokuba ngumsebenzi uphumle ka-mutual kubonisa kwi ukubaluleka ekubeni ngumzali kodwa ingakumbi a mzuzu woxolo kunye serenity kuba abantwana babo. Kwi-kwiimeko kodwa oku kungenxa obligatory ukusetyenziswa okulungileyo evakalayo kwaye malunga le inzala Kuba yakhe ukukuthakazelela ukuthatha kunjalo ukuba inkundla, oko kuhle ukukhumbula ukuba usiba ka-umgwebi, ngoko ke rhoqo ukusazisa, sibonisa rhoqo, ilizwi umntu wangaphandle kwaye extraneous ukuba dynamics ngamnye usapho, rhoqo eshiya hayi kuphela komlinganiselo kodwa kanjalo mutual dissatisfaction. Ukuba akunjalo ukwenza isibheno kodwa kuphela njengoko a yokugqibela resort, njengokuba lokugqibela inyathelo emva kokuzama, kunye okulungileyo evakalayo kwaye objectivity, ukufumana isivumelwano, ekubeni njengoko zokugqibela injongo inzala, amalungelo, kwaye kwangoko ulonwabo abantwana. Kwaye nayo akulunganga ukuba uyisebenzise ngaphandle ebalulekileyo kunikwe njengokuba cacisa ukusuka bakhe ileta Masibe ithemba, ngoko ke, ukuba oku Christmas kuzisa bonke ukukhanya kwaye serenity, ekuncedeni kuthi ukuhlala ungquzulwano kwi ngaphezulu rational kwaye isombulula nabo a ubulungisa ukuba kubaluleke ngakumbi phakathi.
